Are all men domestically unaware? Or just the men in my family?Husband and I were having dinner with GSIL and B2 last night and we were discussing how B1 and his fiance are going to handle the arrival of their twins. (B1 = oldest brother, B2 = middle brother, Husband is youngest of 3)
My husband, his 2 brothers and his father own a business. Translation: They work extremely looooooong hours. I am talking 12-14 hour days, sometimes 6-7 days a week. There are days where I don't see Husband at all.
Ideal? No. Fact of life? Yes.
Excerpt from conversation last night:
GSIL: I think B2 and Fiance should think about getting some help, at least a few days a week, once the twins get here.
Chatham: I completely agree, especially if B1 is not going to be able to cut back on hours.
Husband: Why? What's the issue? She can't handle the babies on her own?
GSIL: Are you serious? Do you have any idea how hard it is to have one newborn? Let alone 2?
B2: Snorts and nods in agreement.
Husband: ::incredulous:: How hard could it be?
Chatham: What? You think that they babies come out, automatically sleep through the night, only eat 3x a day, bath themselves and poop in the toilet? Oh, and all at the exact same time?
B2: They have no idea what they are in for.
Husband: How hard could it be?
GSIL: You are crazy. I have never had twins, but I can tell you, even with just having 1, I lost my shit more than once.
Husband: Huh. You guys don't make having children sound like fun at all.
I was surprised that Husband was so spectacularly unaware of the reality of it all. B2 is the only brother who has children and seemingly in touch with reality. I am starting to worry that Fiance is going to completely drown once the twins get here, especially if the perception is that "it's not that hard."
Fuck, I am worried that I will be an epic failure as a new mother if Husband thinks it is so easy and that I can do it alone. Truth? This is what will likely happen since we don't have a living mother between us to give us support.
It's a glass half empty kinda day.
7 comments:
Truly, they have not a clue. Mine still wonders why I get so mad at him when he wakes me up to have sex. You fool, leave me alone, I've been taking care of your child all day long and I'm TIRED. Their penises prevent them from understanding basic facts of life. I think it's funny that they can in NO way handle it on their own, so they hand the kid off to you thinking that you can.
You will not be an epic failure- you will be great!
Ugh, boys are just so DUMB sometimes. Idiots.
Sorry you're having a glass half empty kind of day. Hugs.
Geesh, he's a little clueless. I can def see how the glass could be half full without a mother in law to deal with though. Just sayin....
They are in for a hell of a surprise if they think handling twins (shit even just 1) is a walk in the park...has he ever babysat before?
It's okay. My B thinks having a baby is somewhere on the same plane as "adopting a puppy." Only hairless.
It amazes me how clueless men can be. I don't even have children, and the thought of twins makes me cringe with apprehension. That would be SO MUCH work.
I love it how men always think they have a handle on any situation.
please.
oh i pray they have a clue. parenthood scares the crap out of me and the only thing that calms me is the idea that all men BUT my hubby are clueless to kids. but i'm sadly thinking that i've been lying to myself.
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